There are always two ways to do everything. The correct way and the incorrect way! It is also possible to do the correct thing, but in the incorrect manner. For example,there may be times when we must point out to others where they have veered from the proper path. In such moments it can be tempting to rebuke people harshly and even to demean them for having acted foolishly. When people behave improperly, it can frustrate us or even make us angry.
Paul sent Timothy to correct improper beliefs and behavior in the church. Yet he also gave his protege wise counsel. In correcting someone older than us, we do not have to disrespect him. Rather, we can exhort him to rise to a higher level of Christian living. Likewise we can challenge younger men as brothers, younger women as sisters and older women as mothers. Sometimes it is not what we say that is as important as how we say it.
Some people are well meaning enough, but they have not yet learned the proper way to interact with people. As a result, they leave people offended rather than improved. If we are going to play a part in seeing people change, we must first love them. If we don’t speak with love, they won’t hear what we are saying.